Yes.
Kinda..
Uh huh. Great leadership.
Would have been far sillier for the veteran, one of the other ~25 black players in the NHL, to take aside the 23 year old and communicate with him the appropriate etiquette and expectations of the franchise, having a better understanding for what the young man is going through from a cultural perspective than anyone.
Not difficult; I do it all the time in the Corporate world. And while Byfuglien was celebrated by the media and hockey world i general for his actions, which were indeed hazing, I can assure you that most minorities who pay attention to the NHL had a similar, vitriolic, reaction; full well knowing what it was he was trying to accomplish with his actions.