It has been my observation that poorly written unjustified power fantasy characters tend to get more crap for being poorly written unjustified power fantasies if they are
aimed at women and/or minorities. So it isn't the character itself, it's the target demo.
This is why Ripley from Aliens is fine while soap opera hunks (housewives) and Tim Allen in Last Man Standing (60+ who secretly remember fondly the good ole days) get crap.
This is why Twilight (virginal tween girls) and 50 Shades (who the eff is this aimed at, and what does this say about us/that demo???) are/were things best known for the odium they inspired, while Hunger Games and Harry Potter get a pass (although I, incredible bias alert, would argue Harry Potter is a well written series that knows how to build characters and tense situations and a good mystery, handle magic that doesn't reduce it to a plot device, and straddles the line between power fantasy and fallibility). The latter two are more general audience than the former.
I'm not a woman, but is there anything about Rey that is specifically aimed at women beyond that Rey is one?
Anyway....
I am not asserting she was actively using the force to make the Falcon flip. I am asserting her connection to the force allowed it to be done effectively
If we're comparing Luke from ANH here...
First, I think the problem isn't that she
can fly, it's that she does stuff previously implied to be the stuff super elite awesome McAwesomesauce pilots do,
while at the same time the scene is set up as if Rey isn't one of those and we should expect her to struggle. As I recall, the chase opens with a "put it in gear!" gag, and Rey expresses doubt in herself, even if it's doubt that she can fly
that piece of junk.
Rather than working from that buildup, the scene does a 180 and has Rey be a really competent flyer. And then the film handwaves it away and never really mentions it again. I think the problem here, vis a vis Rey's overall character, is: Abrams wanted a character the opposite of Luke. Luke wants to leave his sh!t situation, Rey wants to stay. Luke is confident in his flying abilities, Rey isn't. But Abrams doesn't build a character that would naturally fit that, so it's all surface level stuff, which is why this is all so contentious.
But second, and more importantly: the Force in the tench run is a metaphor for Luke's belief in himself. The point it's making is, Luke just has to believe he is capable of greatness and he can succeed. "Let go. Trust your instincts" whispers encouraging father figure. Here, the Force is just a plot device that allows the directors to do something they want to do without working hard in the writers room to get it.
Going back to Harry Potter: it's why the Patronus kind of works despite being a highly advanced spell (we're told) only competent adult wizards can perform: Harry is 13 at the time and not that adept at wizardry. It's a metaphor for hope (which is why it's the spell the child soldiers are practicing when the psycho b***h busts their party) while the Dementors represent despair: the Dementors force Harry to remember that he is alone, in that no adult gives a crap if he lives or dies in the most intimate, familial sense. So the twist tells Harry there is an adult who cares about him (and also, he never has to go back to the orphanage or whatever): that feeling allows him to perform the spell and preserve the hope from the ultimate, all consuming despair.
(I say kinda 'cause then every adult character mentions it afterward as an excuse to praise him/tell him how good he is, which is annoying)
Trivia: Did you know? In Book 1, Hermione panics in the killer plant and it's Ron who calms her enough to set fire to the damn thing. She later solves the logic puzzle. A logic puzzle doesn't work on screen [in a kids film, at least], so it's Ron who panics while Hermione stays calm, with Ron later proving himself in chess. This dynamic switch remained in the films, which is why the characterization of film Ron and book Ron is the most different of any character [maybe Snape, who is portrayed as less of a butthole in the films].