1. The One is someone you can connect on emotional level - the person you first want the share either a great news or a bad one. One that you want to become the best version of yourself for. Someone whom you care about not hurting or giving joy even if it will cause you some personal sacrifice - effort, time, money etc 2. Crazy lust is something that goes away eventually. Love (and desire) stays. 3. One can't help notice attraction. One CAN help not acting upon / throwing these thoughts out after realizing what's on a line. Does a few minutes of pleasure worth a risk of hurting someone you care about? Keeping this secrete? Losing the love one altogether?