Yeah, there are basically three kinds of people. All of them say dumb shit at times. One group of them, mean the dumb shit but are smart enough to 'read the room'. The next group, didn't mean harm when they said their dumb shit, and are actually sorry that they did harm. The third group meant the dumb shit and are offended that they aren't allowed to say dumb shit, whatever the effect on other's. The people that are getting in trouble are the ones that are doubling down, or that did irredeemable things.