WTF are you even talking about? He took a stick lift to the twig and berries before he ever grabbed the stick in the follow-up. He grabbed the stick
because it was used to try and castrate him.
And there was another spear just prior to that, if you watch the video that MonsterMack posted... Down in the defensive zone.
I'm sorry, any NHL player who uses his stick to hit another player in the groin is a giant vagina and deserves to have their head taken off.
That said, Hartman should definitely be suspended for his headshot. 1-2 games, IMO.