I don't want to keep having this out in the public part of the board, but from the site rules. Rule
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As I said in the previous post, it's a pretty simple litmus test:
Is the comment you're making critical of or negative towards the poster themselves and not about the post on its own merits?
Yes? Then it's not appropriate.
As I have said to dozens of people in the past, this is not the schoolyard. "They started it" or "they're doing just as bad/worse" is not a valid reason to reset the bar on your own personal conduct or suddenly decide what level of personal snarking is or is not valid. Let the mods worry about what other people do or don't do. Just be aware of what you do and how it shapes the conversation around you.
I don't think it's too much to ask people to treat everyone else how they would want to be treated themselves.
I don't mean to get frustrated. Really, I don't. I just sometimes get a little frazzled because I feel like people don't realize how much of the issues that a lot of the populous seem to have with the level/tone of discourse around here could be solved if everyone could just take a step back and really think about how the image they project and the tone they choose to take contributes to the atmosphere.
People complain that this place isn't as good or as fun as it used to be. A lot of it gets hung on ideas like the site rules being more restrictive (Which is actually the opposite of true: the rules are
much more relaxed and macro-level than they ever used to be) or a casual attitude being quashed. But the truth is that a lot of the degredation comes from the change in attitudes and conduct of the masses. The takes are hotter, opinions are stronger, tempers are shorter, and people seem more consumed with being seen as 'right' or 'winning' an argument than they are with just having a spirited by genial conversation. People don't share opinions. It more so ends up like person A says "I think this" and then person B says "No, that's wrong, it's this." and then A responds "That's the stupidest hting I've ever heard, it's clearly what I said." and then the fight is on. And I'm also not singling you out to say that you in particular do all of this. Honestly, much of this paragraph pretty much just spilled out of my brain after I led off the previous paragraph with "I don't mean to get frustrated" inadvertently signaling that I am indeed pretty frustrated with how things go around here sometimes (like now. Post-playoff-exit is far far far and away my least favorite time on HF because the threads become borderline unreadable with how toxic they get.) especially because I know there's no really good reason for it to be like this.
I know you're all better people than what the worst of this place shows. Some of you I know that because I've met you. Others just because I've spoken with you on here over the better part of the last.. oh dear god it's been like 13 years since I joined. At the risk of sounding incredibly trite, this is one of those "be the change you want to see" type things. Or for those that prefer their sage advice in pop culture reference form: "be excellent to each other" (even more relevant since there's a new movie coming!
) It might feel like I expect a lot of you guys/gals sometimes. But I only do it because I know you can live up to that. If everyone could just take ownership of their own behaviour and respectfulness and not be concerned with that of others, we'd be golden.