People always say this kind of thing, but personally, I think it's pretty warranted that the reaction would be completely different if roles were reversed, because the differences in biological "equipment" involved would warrant that difference in reaction/severity, rather than it being some sort of a double standard. Men and women should not be treated the same in that regard, IMO.
Well, that's literally what a double standard is.
Merriam Webster said:
double standard:
a set of principles that applies differently and usually more rigorously to one group of people or circumstances than to another
especially : a code of morals that applies more severe standards of sexual behavior to women than to men
Not all double standards are bad, but they're still double standards. Here, I disagree that a double standard is justified, especially on the basis of sexual "equipment." What makes one gender's equipment seem different? It's the association of one with violation, right? That association is in our heads. If men and women had the opposite sexual equipment, men would still violate women, just a bit differently, and we'd create the opposite association.
For some reason people don't bring this up, but being pressured to receive sex is significantly more traumatizing/serious than being forced to give it, whether nerves are involved or not. To expect the same reaction to depictions of both doesn't make sense to me.
This doesn't follow for me. If a man were to make a girl do all of the work, it probably wouldn't be any less traumatizing than if he did all of the work, himself. In fact, it might even be more traumatizing, since the girl might blame herself for following his orders, whereas, if he forced himself on her, she might rationalize that there was nothing that she could do about it.
Anyways, all of this is a bit beside the point because what I was really getting at is that I have a theory that many are critical of those who are uncomfortable with the scene because they construe it as being uncomfortable with the fact that the scene is female empowering and feel that they have to defend it. I could be wrong, but the criticism of people for simply being uncomfortable seeing a semi-naked Arya seems a little uncalled for, so it makes me wonder if something else is going on. If the scene were other way around, being uncomfortable with it wouldn't receive as much flak, I reckon.