Wow.... I don't miss those kind of politics at all. But recognize they exist just about everywhere and I have my own personal disappointments too.
All I can say is that taking your puck, stick and goalie net elsewhere very rarely works out for the best. Saw lots of that happen at Littleton when self aggrandizing coaches and their entourages decided to exit and build their own programs or form their own teams. However, quality organizations put the politics aside, hire the best coaches who can both develop players, develop good citizens and also win championships.
Yeah, winning IS a part (but sometimes too big a part) of the equation. Not so much to the kids but to the parents who are paying the bill. Otherwise, why keep score?