Again, the simple solution to not be bothered by "ref" game management, fined coaches who call them out for not being actual refs, the arbitrary board of player discipline, poach drafting, the loser point, the salary cap, loopholes and all other artificial, weird things is to simply acknowledge and accept that the NHL is an entertainment industry and not a sports league. It wants to give the image of being a real, competitive sports league, but it's not. It's an entertainment franchise (not a sports club) that sells their entertainment product in the form of hockey.
When you accept this, all the numerous, weird things that don't belong in an actual sports league will be easier to handle mentally as a viewer. It's the same with all the others; NFL, MLB, MLS, NBA, they're entertainment industries.