Nobody wants to enjoy the little things because the little things never develop into the big things that we actually need to have happen.
Very plausible psychological explanation for most of the inflated negativity we see around here. It's basically a defense mechanism.
This post is mostly off-topic but since people keep mentioning and complaining about these issues, I would like to say a couple of things about the negativity and alleged toxicity on this board.
I've learned recently that some of my posts have been viewed as negative and toxic. That's fine. I go re-read some of my garbage and try to think critically what I could have said better there or if I should not have commented anything at all. Some things I may regret saying, some things I certainly don't. It's obvious I have made mistakes and I have no problem admitting that.
But then there are posts that look fine to me but the other poster doesn't interpret it similarly, and soon one poster is calling out the other poster(s) for being negative and toxic. Those situations are confusing to me for several reasons: 1) I don't know what said thing was negative and toxic, 2) is toxicity a problem that should be eliminated from the site and 3) is calling out others for being negative and toxic -- without explaining why it was negative and toxic -- a good way to deal with the problem?
I think I have a good general idea of what negativity means, but the definition of toxicity might be a bit trickier. Which of these listed HFCBJ board phenomenons could be seen as toxic?
- trolling
- posting about the team that's real and new information but also happens to be negative in essence
- posting about the team that's real but which isn't new discovery and also happens to be negative in essence
- constantly posting about the team that could or needs to be better with good reasoning
- constantly posting about the team that could or needs to be better with poor reasoning
- sarcastic or friendly jab at someone or something
- constantly committing to logical fallacies (creating straw men, moving goalposts, intentionally dodging other's core questions/criticism, misrepresenting others' opinions etc)
If we scroll through last night's GDT, how many of all 200 or so posts were negative and toxic? What would be an acceptable % of negativity in all threads?
I enjoy reading and posting on this board, but I won't lie in saying that sometimes certain type of posts and debates depress me a little, usually when people refuse to acknowledge their bias and flaws in arguments. Making the effort to find stronger objective support for your argument and being open to self-criticism is more important to me than avoiding negativity / being artificially positive. Maybe it could even solve part of the "toxicity" problem.