RE: "Whining to Refs"
I'm not sure why people get so demeaning and condescending about it. I've always recognized that we are taking the most competitive people on the planet. Seriously, look at some of the names being tossed around: Gretzky, Crosby, Messier, Yzerman. These guys were all know to have an ultra high compete level and the "whining" is just a reflection of that. They are fighting for every opportunity they can.
Further, these guys were captains/leaders on their respective teams. It is literally part of their job to engage with the referee.
Honestly, when I play mens league, I hate it. We are all here for fun, Beer league refs make like 40 bucks a game, my expectations aren't very high.