The reason there was so much animosity after the Lemieux his was because he didn't call Draper? Uh, no. The reason there was so much animosity was because of pretty much everything else having to do with that hit. Draper's biggest problems with that hit were the hit itself, and the league failing to properly punish Lemieux. In fact, Draper has said he never expected an apology from Lemieux. Partly because Lemieux was and is a piece of shit, and partly because that was not how things went back then.
The point is, guys with reputations, guys who made these kinds of hits, of which there were many back in the day (not just the dirtiest dirt bags), did not generally call their opponents after dirty hits. It simply did not happen. And ruling out a bunch of guys who were responsible for probably over 50% of the dirty hits back then does not help your argument.
Guys who inadvertently injured their opponent? Accidentally? Guys who generally weren't overly physical? Yes, I've heard the stories of those guys apologizing. They were the exception. But the guys in the 80s and 90s who threw their bodies and sticks around with reckless abandon on a nightly basis were not generally picking up that phone. It wasn't the culture. That's revisionist history of the NHL.