Dealing With Financial Vampires

[MetalheadPenguinsFan]

Update: I emailed his gf ( Owes me 100) & politely asked for it. He proceeds to tell me to get a grip, I've been disrespectful etc. I won't get the $ back. But I'm better off without them.

What happened to this???

Nonetheless, I've accepted I am not getting the money back and blocked them both.

If you've accepted that you aren't getting $ back then why email and ask for it???

 

[Bumpus]

Can you spot me $20?

OK, guess not.

How bout tree fiddy?

 

[Hockeyholic]

OK, guess not.

How bout tree fiddy?

Lol I've learned my lesson.

 

[Hockeyholic]

To be clear: Letting go is tough. It's hard not to think of some good times we had.

 

[MetalheadPenguinsFan]

OK, guess not.

How bout tree fiddy?

I gave you a dollah!!!!

 

[Hockeyholic]

Update: He was arrested for unlawful entry into a home. She had her kids taken away. They are out of the picture.

What would ya'll do about flaky friends? I'll message this guy on a Monday and see if he wants to play pool Friday. He will say yes; yet never actually comes out. Not a bad guy. Just unreliable.

 

[MetalheadPenguinsFan]

What would ya'll do about flaky friends? I'll message this guy on a Monday and see if he wants to play pool Friday. He will say yes; yet never actually comes out. Not a bad guy. Just unreliable.

I'd ditch them. If they can't make time for you, are they really your friends??

 

[InfinityIggy]

Update: He was arrested for unlawful entry into a home. She had her kids taken away. They are out of the picture.

What would ya'll do about flaky friends? I'll message this guy on a Monday and see if he wants to play pool Friday. He will say yes; yet never actually comes out. Not a bad guy. Just unreliable.

I'm sorry to be the one to tell you this, but he is a bad guy.

 

[Hockeyholic]

I'm sorry to be the one to tell you this, but he is a bad guy.

He's not as bad as the guy arrested. He did it again todwy. Fed up.

 

[MetalheadPenguinsFan]

He's not as bad as the guy arrested. He did it again todwy. Fed up.

Cut your losses and move on.

 

[VoluntaryDom]

seripmav laicnif htiw gnilaed

 

[TaLoN]

Vampire is the wrong term... Vampires by their nature have power over their victims.

The correct term for this would be, they are LEECHES.

They are no where to be seen for long periods of time, and suddenly show up sucking you dry until you finally tear them off.

Remove the leeches yo!

 

[zombie kopitar]

Remove the leeches yo!

You just leave Reggie Leach out of this mister

 

[darko]

Well I have a friend I've known four years. He's living in a motel in a different city. No money. No smokes. No job. No nothing. He's not allowed to be around his fiance nor her four kids. She still lets them around him. She's actually paying for his motel.

I saw these people Halloween. They asked to borrow 100 more bucks on top of the 400 plus he/she owed already. At this particular time, the kids had been nine months removed from being taken out of her custody by CPS.

Eight and a half months passes by. Don't hear a word from neither. They never reached out to ask how I was. Nor to tell me rheyll pay me back. Nothing. They only reach out when un need.

Three weeks ago I hear from my friend. He needs 25 because he's in a bad spot. I lend it. Hear nothing until few weeks later when they need more money. I can't help them. Yet I feel guilty because she's admitted she can't feed her kids. Yet she's never given me a cent back..at all.

Would you cut your losses if you were in my shoes? Tell them Ill only be a friend and not an ATM machine? It's hard to let go. I keep remembering all those talks me and him had. How nice he was at first. I want that " Old Friend" back.

If this belongs in a different section, mods please move it. I understand I'm at fault for enabling. Maybe I'm romantacizing things. Maybe drinking and partying with him wasn't as fun as I make it out to be.

Can you hook me up with $50?

 

[darko]

You have to be some serious level of stupid to lend people money.

Right lol.

Nothing wrong lending money to people you know and trust.

 

[tarheelhockey]

Update: He was arrested for unlawful entry into a home. She had her kids taken away. They are out of the picture.

What would ya'll do about flaky friends? I'll message this guy on a Monday and see if he wants to play pool Friday. He will say yes; yet never actually comes out. Not a bad guy. Just unreliable.

I assume he was trying to burglarize the home.

You mentioned he has debts all over the place including to known criminals and dangerous people.

He gets aggressive when you ask for the money you "lent" to him before.

His children were sleeping in boxes until they were taken away.


Take any awful person whose mugshot you see in the news, and you can find someone who vouches that they're "not a bad guy". Someone still remembers the person he was when he was young, before the drugs and the debt and the arrests... and what comes after that.

The reality is, he's not just flaky and unreliable... he's a bad guy. Think if you didn't know him and it was your house he broke into. Would you think "flaky"?

You're in an awful situation here. You are a victim of his (and her) life choices. There likely won't be a happy ending to their story. By maintaining contact with them, you're only putting yourself more and more in a position to be a target when they're absolutely desperate and no longer care about consequences.

Consider how often you hear the line "knew the victim" when really bad things happen.

 

[Hockeyholic]

I assume he was trying to burglarize the home.

You mentioned he has debts all over the place including to known criminals and dangerous people.

He gets aggressive when you ask for the money you "lent" to him before.

His children were sleeping in boxes until they were taken away.


Take any awful person whose mugshot you see in the news, and you can find someone who vouches that they're "not a bad guy". Someone still remembers the person he was when he was young, before the drugs and the debt and the arrests... and what comes after that.

The reality is, he's not just flaky and unreliable... he's a bad guy. Think if you didn't know him and it was your house he broke into. Would you think "flaky"?

You're in an awful situation here. You are a victim of his (and her) life choices. There likely won't be a happy ending to their story. By maintaining contact with them, you're only putting yourself more and more in a position to be a target when they're absolutely desperate and no longer care about consequences.

Consider how often you hear the line "knew the victim" when really bad things happen.

The not so " Bad" guy is the dude who is flaky. He isn't reliable.

Obviously the bum friend and his girlfriend are a lost cause. He's gonna end up dead, in jail, on streets.

I was an idiot for lending the money. But it was a life lesson. It's better to be in the hole 400 dollars then being with him when someone shoots at him. Or when the cops intervene.

 

[Hockeyholic]

I assume he was trying to burglarize the home.

You mentioned he has debts all over the place including to known criminals and dangerous people.

He gets aggressive when you ask for the money you "lent" to him before.

His children were sleeping in boxes until they were taken away.


Take any awful person whose mugshot you see in the news, and you can find someone who vouches that they're "not a bad guy". Someone still remembers the person he was when he was young, before the drugs and the debt and the arrests... and what comes after that.

The reality is, he's not just flaky and unreliable... he's a bad guy. Think if you didn't know him and it was your house he broke into. Would you think "flaky"?

You're in an awful situation here. You are a victim of his (and her) life choices. There likely won't be a happy ending to their story. By maintaining contact with them, you're only putting yourself more and more in a position to be a target when they're absolutely desperate and no longer care about consequences.

Consider how often you hear the line "knew the victim" when really bad things happen.

The bum friend broke into a home. He's the crazy guy.

A different " Friend" is flaky. Unreliable.

 

[tarheelhockey]

The bum friend broke into a home. He's the crazy guy.

A different " Friend" is flaky. Unreliable.

Ah, got it. I thought they were the same person.

With flaky friends, I guess you just have to accept them for who they are. It's usually nothing personal.

 

[InfinityIggy]

He's not as bad as the guy arrested. He did it again todwy. Fed up.

Oh you mean two different guys. Thought you were talking about the same dude.

 

[Bumpus]

 

[redfzn]

Cocaine is a hell of a drug.

 

[MetalheadPenguinsFan]

So true

 

[Stuzchuk]

You already know the answer. You will never see that money again. Wash your hands of it, walk away and don't give them any more.

Also someone who only gets ahold of you when they need cash is not your friend.

basically this...

 

[Carolinas Identity*]

I like to **** these type of people off buy buying them food.

There was a dude at the gas station the other day, asking for a couple of bucks because he was 'starving'. I never carry cash on me, so I bought him a snickers while I was in there. Upon giving it to him, he called me a "rich f***ing a**hole, too stuck up my own ass to help a brother out".

Definitely not the reaction I was expecting.

i love offering to buy people subway pr w/e when they say they need a few bucks and then they yell at you

gets me off