Again, why else would he basically start doing all of the things that we wanted him to do here and started to do in Chicago?
Every player is given an opportunity. The fact is that a player like Garland showed that want moreso than Strome did. If Strome was unhappy with how the coaching staff was using him, then ask them what he can do to put himself in that position to earn ice time. If Tocchet, Chayka, and other coaches didn't give him meaningful ways to improve, then yes, it is all on the coach and GM, and Strome has every right to ask out. But I have a hard time believing that a coaching staff and the higher-ups would do that, for several reasons:
#1 That would be apparent to other members of the team and if a coach treated a player with a good attitude and the skill to help the team in a poor manner - more than just Strome would be asking to be traded.
#2 The coaches would then also treat everyone in a very similar fashion. Why would you single out one player with no additional ways to help him succeed and then turn around and become coach of the year to others? Coaches have to deal with 20-30 different players during the year. They will tell you what mistakes you are making and reinforce positively when good things are done.
#3 If a player doesn't understand why they are being treated a certain way, then they can ask those same resources. It is humbling to be told the same thing by a coach and a GM. If the coaching staff and GM are giving you very different information (i.e. Strome goes to Tocchet and Tocchet says that he needs to work on board work. Strome then goes to Chayka and is told that his board work is fine, but to work on driving the net. If that is the case, then yes, we are stringing him along). I think that the reality is that Strome was told the same thing by coach and GM and he simply didn't believe it. That's not being mistreated b/c he is being given the same message, which follows the methodology that Chayka wanted - absolute transparency between GM, coaches, and players.
Much like the border debate, there are two sides that needed to come together, but one side is being petulant about it. We saw it with Turris. While Strome didn't quite have the same vocal presence about his unhappiness that Turris had, it still doesn't change the fact that there was a lack of effort on the player's side.