I don't know why you're telling me that nobody is victim-blaming, considering I never accused anyone of that. My main issue is the lack of empathy I have seen. I understand that many people are raised to respond to situations like this with violence. I personally was not raised this way although I responded to bullying with violence many times, so I understand the urge. The problem is there are people in this thread who seem to believe the only acceptable response to this situation is violence, and are then judging the player for not taking this avenue. To me, that smacks of a lack of empathy.
What I'm trying to explain is that for many people, "nothing comes above personal health of yourself and your family, no matter what", but not everyone ranks personal health of themselves as high. I think based on what happened, we can assume being a pro hockey player was more important to the victim than anything that happened to him personally. Despite how people in this thread want to describe that, it is not a character flaw or something worthy of criticizing him for. Just because he had different priorities and values than someone else doesn't mean that person is better than him.
I'm not including you in that, except that last paragraph. Honestly, to me, all the looking for what he should or could have done instead comes across as attempts to either place blame on him for what happened (in addition to Alritch) or in some way lessen how much support or compassion he should be given. The darker motive though might be to infer that he actually wanted to go along with Aldrich, and thus isn't even a victim after all, but a willing participant - after all, if he didn't want to do it, he should have fought back or "found some other way to remove himself from that immediate situation and seek assistance", right?
In a different context, say in a discussion about self-defence or how to respond to sexual coercion, these kinds of comments might be appropriate. But as the primary comment in response to a story of someone being sexually assaulted? Even if you have perfectly noble motives, you can't blame anyone for accusing you of victim-blaming or other negative motives.