Pranzo Oltranzista
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That sounds mostly compatible with what I'm saying.
I just fundamentally disagree that "better" should necessarily be reserved as a strictly provable objective term the way that some people use it. To me, it's very subjective, because the purpose of the medium is subjective to begin with. Better is just what you personally see and argue that there's more value in, IMO. It doesn't need to be 100% objectively applicable to every human in the world for it to be fair to use that word, nor should anyone take it that way, in my opinion.
But even on the ACTUAL objective side, I would still lean towards thinking that either you or your girlfriend are more right about what they think, and that if you could step into each others brains and fully understand each other, you would be able to determine who was more right and come away with a similar experience. That's obviously technically impossible with current technology, so I agree that it makes no sense to ever be 100% certain of your opinions about good or bad (nor can any objective argument/superior knowledge ever prove that), but I disagree with the idea that our estimations of everyone's preferences should be treated as exactly the same, exactly as likely, and exactly as valid. Everyone just has their best guess that could very well be wrong. Just because you don't know the answer, doesn't mean that you shouldn't hold onto your best and most compelling guess and refer to that as what you "think" is better, IMO.
As I said, I think her music sucks. Most people think my music sucks ass or that I don't really enjoy what I'm listening to and just do it so I can look "weird" or whatever. I work with teenagers and they have a blast telling me everything I listen to is pure shit (even The Beatles), I think the exact opposite but I keep it to myself because I understand that most of them still define themselves by what they consume (music as much as clothes). I don't think I'm right. I don't think that by linking to their brains, I'd discover that I'm right and I feel the only idea really is pretentious.
I love films, I know cinema and I've studied it to some far extent, my favorite director is Raoul Ruiz and I think his work is the most interesting and complex and that very few come close to his mastery both on narrative and "filmic" levels. Still, come and tell me you think Frank Henelotter is a better director and I'll have a blast with you. And we can find ways to make Frankenhooker a pretty complex and interesting film, worth a thesis in gender studies.