Megustaelhockey
"I like hockey" in Spanish
- Apr 29, 2011
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Good back and forth on this topic. I appreciate that people can disagree without being disagreeable.
I can't wait for the day when the gay athletes in our league can be themselves.
I'm fine with not ridiculing people over their opinion;
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Would you want to open up minds to more discussion than "I was raised this way" / "buddy in the sky doesn't like Joey"
There was roughly one paragraph's worth of text between your saying you shouldn't ridicule people for their beliefs, and your actually ridiculing someone's beliefs, albeit in a subtle and possibly unconscious manner.
Illustrative of how difficult it is to practice what we preach when it comes to tolerance. And that applies to both sides of the debate.
My apologies I was trying to capture an essense of that arguement without putting it out there as "God/Zues/Alah or whomever hates you" as I assumed that would not go over well. I wasn't aware "buddy in the sky" is something seen as hurtful (If someone wants to pm me an explaination much appreciated) I'll avoid it.
It's not so much hurtful, as condescending. The reason should be obvious -- you're characterizing people's concept of "god" as a "buddy in the sky" (which by extension implies an imaginary friend).
I'm not trying to call you out individually, but I do think that your phrasing illustrated the problem of people not understanding each other's perspective. What might seem like common-sense from one person's perspective (gay behavior is inappropriate, spiritual beings are imaginary) may be terribly offensive from another person's perspective. And it's hard to have a productive dialogue in a situation where people are saying offensive things, even if they aren't intended to be offensive. The only effective solution I've seen is to make a serious and honest effort to experience multiple perspectives in our daily lives, to the point that respect for both sides just comes naturally and our language follows suit.
Then they can equally give you "no respect" for your beliefs. Why is your belief more correct or important then theirs?
Think about how ridiculous your statement about that is. You imply its bad for people to hate and impose their beliefs in the name of religion, however, its ok for you to hate and impose your beliefs on them because you dont believe in religion?
Again, why is your opinion or belief any better or give you more right to impose it on anyone just because you dont do it in the name of religion?
There has been an almost equal attack on religion in recent years as there has been religious attacks on the atheists.
Neither party is right and has the right to impose their beliefs on anyone that does not agree.
In our society though, we have laws and majority rule. If the majority decide that gay marriage is ok, then fine and those that do not believe in it will simply be allowed to not practice it.
However, if the majority decide they do not want it, then those that believe in it need to sit back and accept it, just as they'd want those against it would accept it if it becomes legal.
You cant have it both ways. If you want them to respect your beliefs, then you NEED to respect theirs. Simple as that.
All that said, I'm not choosing either side and am simply playing devils advocate and get angry when someone says they dont respect someone elses beliefs while arguing to make them respect their own because they think they're more right.
I'm not religious, but respect their beliefs having grown up Catholic. I couldnt care less about gay marriage, my life goes on either way. I understand the religious beliefs and have three gay uncles so can understand their point of view as well.
The bottom line is statements like I quoted are just as ignorant as religious people that cant see the other side. We can all live by the morals and beliefs we see fit, but have to understand not everyone will see it the same way and we need to respect them and their beliefs just as much as we hold dear to ours.
Then they can equally give you "no respect" for your beliefs. Why is your belief more correct or important then theirs?
Think about how ridiculous your statement about that is. You imply its bad for people to hate and impose their beliefs in the name of religion, however, its ok for you to hate and impose your beliefs on them because you dont believe in religion?
Couldn't have said it any better.Think about how ridiculous your statement about that is. You imply its bad for people to hate and impose their beliefs in the name of religion, however, its ok for you to hate and impose your beliefs on them because you dont believe in religion?
The difference is the gay community isn't imposing anything on anybody. Gay marriage is about allowing gay people to get married, which doesn't change whether or not straight religious people can get married. If you don't like gay marriage, don't marry someone of the same sex, there's no "war" here and it's not "picking a side", it's justice vs. injustice.
Two gay people getting married doesn't impact anyone's freedom of religion and it's ridiculous to even suggest that. Does two other men or women getting married to eachother stop anyone from going to church, preaching their beliefs in public, or practicing their faith? Of course not. Religious people are actively imposing arbitrary beliefs on other people preventing them from doing things that do not harm them in any way.
There's a very clear right and wrong on this topic and trying to make it out to be a matter of opinion is absurd.
Not Gay or Bi here but who really cares? With divorce running rampant in our society who gives a crap if two men or two women love each other. It is not our place to judge or put labels on two individuals that truly accept and honor the sanctity of marriage.
Don't really feel comfortable with gay males, but I am fine with gay girls. I think this is because I don't want gay guys to feel attracted to me. In fact I don't even want them checking me out to see if I am attractive, I find it weird.
I don't choose this, it's just what is natural to me.
-Straight male
IMHO, love is a good thing. The world needs MORE love in it, not less.
As a teacher with 18+ years of experience, I've seen a change in the views of young people. My campus has become known as the gay-friendly campus, we have several teachers who are out, and a very strong GSA club. I have quite a few students who are out, and I don't see them treated poorly. I did get after a student today for calling another student a gay slur (the other student was not gay), but when they say it they're not really thinking about the real meaning behind the word - unfortunately, it's being used the same way that people have used "Pejorative Slured" to show something being bad or wrong. It just hasn't occurred to him that it would be hurtful to his friends who may happen to be gay.
Well then i suggest you move to a deserted island and cut yourself off from society!
Nope, I just deal with it! Just like I wouldn't want an unattractive women making advances on me.
I'd like to note that most gay people are nice people, I have just had in counters with a few guys who made me feel very uncomfortable and they were persistent.
If you keep to your own business I am completely cool with it! Just ask me if I am gay or not and if I say no then walk away.
So by that notion you should not venture out into public because there is a less than zero chance that will not happen.I don't even want them checking me out to see if I am attractive
A lot of my gay friends will tell you that a guy hitting on a guy is the ultimate form of flattery.
But you state:
So by that notion you should not venture out into public because there is a less than zero chance that will not happen.
I was only saying that I don't like that people who simply say that marriage should be between a man and woman (I don't agree with them), get bashed in the media (another problem) for expressing their opinion and nothing more. It's the reason why I brought up Carrie Prejean.. Perez Hilton had no right to ask her a question, to which she answered truthfully, and then call her a "dumb *****" and convince his fellow judges not to award her the Miss USA crown because he didn't agree with her.
That's all it was. Again, I am sorry if anyone was offended by anything that's come from it.
I just find that those that are against probably have never spent any time around a gay couple to see how truly in love they are. They are the same person as you and i but just choose differently who they love and have sex with.
They get bashed because their opinion supports injustice. "Everyone is entitled to their own opinion" doesn't work when it's a discriminatory one.
It's OK if someone doesn't believe gay marriage is right in the eyes of their religion/the eyes of God, but when people say "marriage should be between a man and a woman" they usually mean "I think the law should be marriage should only be between a man and a woman". There's a very clear distinction, the former is logically defensible, the latter isn't.
Donald Trump, who owns most of the Miss Universe Organization, defended Prejean's answer, saying that "Miss California has done a wonderful job" and that "It wasn't a bad answer, that was simply her belief." He then added that the question was "a bit unlucky" and that no matter which way she answered the question "she was going to get killed".
Several elected officials, including Gavin Newsom, mayor of San Francisco and a prominent supporter of same-sex marriage, and political pundits criticized Hilton and defended Prejean for honestly stating her personal beliefs.