You changed the analogy. The correct analogy would be that you are not mad a girl for not wanting to date you, but you hope that she spends her life regretting that decision.
And that makes sense. I'm not mad that Jessica alba doesn't want to marry me. But if I was asked if I wanted her to regret that decision I would say sure why not. It feels good to be wanted. Why are you saying otherwise?
I hope people stop dying of disease in Africa, but I won't get mad every time someone dies of disease in Africa
You can hope for something without being extremely emotionly involved enough to get mad.
I've come up with enough examples lol stop trying to make an argument out of nothing.
If I would rather alfie regrets his decision? Sure, why not.
If I'm mad? No.
This isnt rocket science.