This is an interesting thread. I wonder how many posters have actually played the game beyond beer league. There was a poster on an earlier page who was against fighting, I viewed their past posts & saw one where they said that they weren't allowed to play hockey because their mom wouldn't let them [sic]. I'm assuming because the mom thought that hockey was too dangerous or violent...
It is interesting, isn't it? It probably isn't necessary to have played the game at a high level to understand the mechanics of intimidation and the role it can play as a deterrent to acting outside a 'code'. Is there any essential difference between knowing not to grab a guy's wife's ass in a bar and not taking a cheap shot at a skilled player due to the threat of a fight?
More interesting is the mom not letting a kid play the game because it is too violent. Even if it isn't exactly the case here, the generality could certainly be accepted. And I agree with it. One of the reasons to eliminate fighting would be to increase the chance of hockey being a game of choice for parents who either have kids in another sport, or are looking to put their kid in a sport.
Obviously you've got to admit of degree here, and choose to focus on the violent, yet marginal, aspects of the game versus the more essential, yet violent, elements.
I have played College & University level hockey. I have personally used the threat of violence (many times & had it used on me), to intimidate or attempt to intimidate & force a withdrawal of an opposing player's unethical actions. When you see a less physical player on your team being intimidated by an opposing player (slashed, roughed up, chirped relentlessly), & you have the ability to reverse the intimidation, you do it (an ethical person feels a responsibility). Intimidation is a 'game in the game', it's always been there, it constantly affects the ebb & flow of the game. It's a mechanism that is a fundamental part of hockey. Having the option to fight (without being suspended for 20 games), is a fundamental part of that mechanism. Intimidation is something that is clear on the ice, but probably impossible to quantify watching from the stands or on TV.
I'm not so sure people should be questioning the role of intimidation on the ice. I, for one, understand it and don't question that it plays a significant role in the game.
You gave an example of a player committing infractions against the game that weren't penalized by the refs. We suppose you threatened to fight your opponent, another infraction against the game. This should be an accepted anecdote, well illustrating the role of fighting/intimidation as a deterrent. Why not threaten with a bodycheck, or some other form of act that lay within the rules of the game.
Wouldn't a heavy hit promote all the things you listed below, of hockey as a violent, fast, continuously played, physical sport that requires a certain temperament to succeed at? And conversely, doesn't fighting run contrary to some of those things? Fights stop the play. They occur between whistles and are a penalty.
Hockey is a violent sport, it has a unique combination of speed, continuous play, physical contact & use of peripheral's (sticks). To succeed, a player must exert themselves physically on opposing players. I have difficulty understanding someone who accepts physical contact in the sport, but wants fighting outlawed (suspensions etc.). Unless of course their end goal will eventually be to eliminate violence altogether.
For the good of the game.
Not to eliminate violence altogether, but to eliminate those elements that can be eliminated and replaced by some other mechanism, and that run contrary to hockey's image as a fast, talented, hard hitting, competitive sport. Promoting the things that make the game it's best version of itself, through eliminating the things that tend to run counter, like cheap shots, head hits, fighting, etc.