Is being single selfish?

[Rob]

I just got told off by my sister for being single. Well to be more precise she called me selfish because I said that I have no plans on getting married and having kids. In case you are wondering she is married with a couple of kids herself. I think she sees me with having few responsibilities and greater freedom than she has and doesn't believe it to be fair.

I guess it can be considered selfish if you believe our sole purpose in life is to reproduce. However, I am just happier being single and am not looking for a long term relationship. Of course there are times when it would be nice to come home to someone but those thoughts are few and far between.

It was never an issue until I reached 30. Then the questions started coming from certain family members. The funny thing is my parents don't care at all!

I feel bad for women though. They must have twice as much pressure as we men do.

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[Pharrell Williams]

na, by discontinuing your bloodline you are helping overpopulation, pollution, etc. you is altruistic af. good work.

 

[Morozov]

You could easily make an argument that you not contributing to an increased global population is actually a positive thing.

She should be thanking you for your selfless deed.

 

[Chris Hagen*]

I didn't read the op, but in response to the title: Absolutely not.

 

[Mantis]

She is mad that she got knocked up

 

[KaseMeOutside]

your sister is just jealous

 

[Hippasus]

Being single is self-regarding. Why be with someone if you don't really want to?

 

[Benjamin]

I too was told by my sister I was selfish for not wanting kids. I consider it selfless to not have kids. I don't owe the world a god damn thing. You're welcome for taking up less future resources and making you have to buy less christmas and birthday presents.

 

[Chris Hagen*]

The only reasons to give birth to children are selfishness and ego. If you want children then adopt. There's enough people in the world who need a good family, or in fact, any family.

 

[izzy]

hHa Yes!

 

[Siamese Dream]

Yeah it's so selfish of me that girls don't want to go out with me

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[irunthepeg]

I just got told off by my sister for being single. Well to be more precise she called me selfish because I said that I have no plans on getting married and having kids. In case you are wondering she is married with a couple of kids herself. I think she sees me with having few responsibilities and greater freedom than she has and doesn't believe it to be fair.

I guess it can be considered selfish if you believe our sole purpose in life is to reproduce. However, I am just happier being single and am not looking for a long term relationship. Of course there are times when it would be nice to come home to someone but those thoughts are few and far between.

It was never an issue until I reached 30. Then the questions started coming from certain family members. The funny thing is my parents don't care at all!

I feel bad for women though. They must have twice as much pressure as we men do.

As someone who wants to get married and have kids some day... no, no it's not You're helping keep the human population down. What's selfish is having a wife and kids and then only focusing on yourself. But if you don't have those, you can't be called selfish for not conforming to the way most of the world runs.

 

[irunthepeg]

The only reasons to give birth to children are selfishness and ego. If you want children then adopt. There's enough people in the world who need a good family, or in fact, any family.

so all those parents who had those kids are selfish then... why would I want to adopt children of selfish people, those children are probably selfish too.

 

[Guerzy]

It's your life and your choices to make, not your sisters. She doesn't have to agree with it but she needs to respect it and shut her yap.

Is your sister hot? Asking for a friend (Doland).

 

[John Price]

Ehat

 

[irunthepeg]

is being single shellfish

 

[Pharrell Williams]

yes because you don't shower as often.

 

[RayP]

I've always thought being selfish in general isn't as bad as people make it out to be. Just so long as you're not neglecting a kid you have, or pet, etc.

But if you're just a single dude with no obligations to take care of someone or something else, then I don't see what the problem is with being selfish.

 

[MrFunnyWobbl]

is being seagull selfish

 

[Finnish your Czech]

No, but having kids is also not a bad thing, however it's even better to adopt.

 

[tarheelhockey]

Are you sure she said that you're selfish because you're single, and not that you're single because you're selfish?

 

[tony d]

No it's not. You have your life and can do what you want when you want.

 

[Help]

All things are selfish. Real altruism doesn't exist. She got married and had children because that's what she had to do to feel fulfilled. Whatever your reason for being single, I'm sure it is also selfish.

IMO it's wrong for people to equate selfish to bad. Selfishness by itself is neither good nor bad, it simply is

 

[yubbers]

Are you sure she said that you're selfish because you're single, and not that you're single because you're selfish?

 

[Fixed to Ruin]

Don't let someone else tell you how to live your life.