Yukon Joe
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OK, so the answer is probably "no", but let me lay this scenario out.
We know this kid, lets call him Owen (not his real name). My son has played spring hockey with Owen for about 3 years, played on the same winter hockey team 1 year. We know his parents well enough - we're not friends and don't hang out, but we have each other's numbers. Owen's parents have a lot going on so I've given Owen a ton of rides to hockey over the last couple years.
Owen is a very talented and very selfish player.
Anyways, there was an out of town tournament recently. Neither of Owen's parents could come on the trip so an uncle went with him.
In the tournament of course Owen hardly ever passed - always tries to dangle and toe-drag past the entire other team which never works. But that's just par for the course with this kid. He still manages to get his goals though.
But he also took a ton of selfish penalties - retaliation penalties mostly. The cherry on top was at the end of the tournament, our team was down 1 goal, 2 minutes left, the kid takes another selfish penalty. After being called Owen slaps the puck down the ice. Refs promptly give him an unsportmanlike as well, putting our team down 5 on 3, ending any chance of a comeback. My son confirmed the refs had given the coaches numerous warnings about Owen's behaviour during the game. In the handshake line Owen is still giving it to the Refs. Coaches tell the team afterwards (without naming names) that they never want to hear players disrespecting the refs, but Owen just laughs it off. The rest of the team is very upset at Owen.
Should I say something to the parents?
My gut mostly says "no", it isn't my business. The parents didn't see this tournament, but it was hardly out of character. Owen is definitely their "golden child".
But I also know the team he wants to make next winter, and they won't put up with that kind of nonsense. In fact it might be too late as he has a reputation already. And because he is skilled I'd hate to see that go to waste because of lousy discipline.
Thoughts?
We know this kid, lets call him Owen (not his real name). My son has played spring hockey with Owen for about 3 years, played on the same winter hockey team 1 year. We know his parents well enough - we're not friends and don't hang out, but we have each other's numbers. Owen's parents have a lot going on so I've given Owen a ton of rides to hockey over the last couple years.
Owen is a very talented and very selfish player.
Anyways, there was an out of town tournament recently. Neither of Owen's parents could come on the trip so an uncle went with him.
In the tournament of course Owen hardly ever passed - always tries to dangle and toe-drag past the entire other team which never works. But that's just par for the course with this kid. He still manages to get his goals though.
But he also took a ton of selfish penalties - retaliation penalties mostly. The cherry on top was at the end of the tournament, our team was down 1 goal, 2 minutes left, the kid takes another selfish penalty. After being called Owen slaps the puck down the ice. Refs promptly give him an unsportmanlike as well, putting our team down 5 on 3, ending any chance of a comeback. My son confirmed the refs had given the coaches numerous warnings about Owen's behaviour during the game. In the handshake line Owen is still giving it to the Refs. Coaches tell the team afterwards (without naming names) that they never want to hear players disrespecting the refs, but Owen just laughs it off. The rest of the team is very upset at Owen.
Should I say something to the parents?
My gut mostly says "no", it isn't my business. The parents didn't see this tournament, but it was hardly out of character. Owen is definitely their "golden child".
But I also know the team he wants to make next winter, and they won't put up with that kind of nonsense. In fact it might be too late as he has a reputation already. And because he is skilled I'd hate to see that go to waste because of lousy discipline.
Thoughts?