Great thoughts and I totally agree.
If I can provide some advice as well, don't force kids into a role on the team. Don't tell kids that they can't be creative and that they have to keep things simple.
If you listen to guys like Gretzky he says this is what's killing hockey and I totally agree. In a recent interview with Peter Mansbridge, he said "Go watch a PW game in Toronto. It's nothing but systems".
The kids are robots today who are forced to engage in a systematic approach to the game. Only the top, top players are given any leeway in expressing themselves on the ice.
Case in point, my son.
He's no superstar and he's sure as heck will never earn a dime playing hockey.
He's 10 and this is his first year playing travel hockey.
Prior to this he was a HL defenseman, but was converted to a winger for travel.
He used to skate the puck end to end in HL on every shift. He didn't always score but he made something happen. And he loved being creative.
It helped that his coach allowed him the freedom to do so.
In travel, he's told to either pass or dump. Then go to the net for rebounds. That's it.
In a recent pick-up, 3-on-3 game he couldn't even carry the puck anymore. He kept losing it for no reason.
I was pretty upset watching this. How do you go from playing 20 games to 50 and get worse? (never mind the extra time and money travel costs compared to HL!)
But then it hit me; in HL, he'd play 25 min a night and have the puck on his stick probably 3-5 minutes a game.
In travel he gets 10 minutes and has the puck for maybe 20s.
So no wonder his skills went downhill.
What was more troubling is that at the start of the year he'd try to be creative. He'd try to thread passes or make a move. And then when he'd get back to the bench he'd be told to stop doing those things.
So he did. And now he's a worse player than before.
I don't blame the coaches. It's how things are now. Parents expect wins. And you need systems and robotic players to win.
It's just too bad that in today's youth hockey it's all about winning instead of creativity and fun.
And that IMO is the reason why registration steadily declines in Canada.
And it's really going down in regards to travel players. In our area, we have 4 towns amalgamated in order to make a travel team in each age group.
That was never a problem 'back in my day'.
In a 2013 survey asking kids why they're not playing the #1 reason was "it's not fun".
My own son, who considered hockey to be his favourite sport a season ago, said that he now likes baseball better.
The reason? He said "Because in baseball nobody forces me to play a certain way".
To make a poor comparison, the style of hockey he's forced to play would be like his baseball coach telling him he's only allowed to push the ball the opposite way and try to leg out a single.
No doubles, triples or HR's. Just put the ball in play on the opposite side of the field.
Do yourself a favour and read the book "Who's Puck is it Anyway?"
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A coach wrote it diary-style over the course of a season. He was so tired of all the systems and overcoaching that he decided to let the kids decide how to play the game.
Practices focused exclusively on skill development. They didn't win the Championship of the universe, but the kids had a great time and so did the coaches.