No way is that ever a cross-checking penalty the way it's called, though personally I'm of the opinion might as well call every cross-check since it's clearly against the rules, instead of this "you can cross-check at moderate force most times, but you generally get away with murder around your own crease, except that one time you don't and it's a penalty" BS.
Goalie interference is another that's a complete coin toss, so I'm not surprised this goal stood and I don't think you need a conspiracy theory for that, but the way the rulebook is written seems to me it should've been called back.The way these things are usually called, I don't know... it seems completely random, I've seen worse goals stand after video review and others called back for lesser interference.