Ok so intuitively I thought "No way, what if the first card picked is an ace? The probability must be very close, but still a tad lower"
And so I did the calculation (prob of picking a on first draw X prob of picking ace on 2nd draw + prob of pick any other card on 1st draw X prob of pick ace on 2nd draw) = 1/13
Actually idk if I'm doing something wrong but using similar calculations for the picking an ace on the third draw is also 1/13. Could it be that without any information about previous draws, it does not matter where you pick, the probability of picking an ace will always be 1/13? Is that an example of a famous theorem?
In fact, the probability that the second card in the deck is an ace is indeed 1/13 as your calculations show. However, your first thought
"No way, what if the first card picked is an ace? The probability must be very close, but still a tad lower" is exactly what confuses many people. What is interesting though is that if you ask for the probability that the first card is an ace, almost everyone who is unsure of what happens with the second card will none the less say that the probability of the top card is 1/13.
On one hand the confusion has a positive aspect to it because it shows that we have a natural instinct concerning "conditional probability". Unfortunately, this instinct often results in mistakes, as it frequently does in this problem. You have correctly identified the two distinct possibilities that must be considered if you are to apply the normal mathematical rules to calculate the given probability. You have also correctly used both conditional probability and the more subtle notion of independence.
However, one can also think of this more intuitively. We seem to mostly agree that the probability of the first card being an ace, given no additional knowledge will be 1/13 because there are 52 possible cards that could be in that place, 4 are aces and each card theoretically has an equal likelihood of being the first card. But is it not also true that when the shuffling stops each card should have an equal likelihood of being in the second spot, or the third, or the 45th. So without any additional information there is really nothing special about the second spot in the deck. It could be any of the 52 cards and each is equally likely.
But what if the first card is an ace...It turns out that if we don't already know this to be the case, then this is technically irrelevant to our calculation. After all it has to be something but since its nature is unknown to us in the face of our own ignorance the first card is really no more of a concern than the nature of the 35th card. (In your original first thought should you not have been equally concerned about the nature of card 35?) But if we flip the first card over, then our game changes. Now we are essentially playing the original game with 51 cards all equally likely to be at the top of the deck but this time with only 3 aces left. So given that we know the first card is an ace, the probability that the second card is an ace would now be 3/51. This is conditional probability.
Similarly, if in our original deck we were told card 35 was an ace, then once again the second card in the deck would be one of 51 equally likely cards. with only three aces to choose from we are once more left with a probability of 3/51. So it turns out that learning the nature of the 35th card gives us as much information as learning the nature of the 1st card.
One way to resolve this once the deck is shuffled secretly mark the second card and then without your friend noticing place the cards in a big circle. Now ask your friend what the probability that the marked card is an ace.