Kane has an impact on the way the team plays because all the antics after the whistle leads to the team focusing more on hits/trash talking/running around than they are on sticking to playing good defense (this isn't just a Kane issue, others on the team seem to get into it with Vegas too). Once they lose focus, Vegas counter attacks and scores. You apparently have a different opinion but I don't see San Jose getting into these line brawls or constant after the whistle chirping against any other team except for Vegas who just happens to be the team that for whatever reason forces us to make boneheaded defensive play after boneheaded defensive play. It's the same issue we had back in the day when we let LA goon it up and distract us. It's the same reason we beat the hell out of Anaheim all the time when Perry and Getzlaf go crazy and we all laugh at them because we get more PP's and score more. When you get top players off their game and focused on **** after the whistle, they don't score as much.
It's only natural that if you are more worried about running around and hitting guys than you are about your defensive assignment, you will probably get beat more often than not and give up a great scoring chance...something we love to do Vegas.
I'm not sure how you can argue that Vegas getting him riled up is not the reason he finds himself suspended a 2nd time. The first time was a cross check to the head of Bellemare (another 4th line plug) well after the whistle in which Kane went out of his way to engage him. Again, why is a top 6 scorer wasting his time or energy on a guy playing 10 minutes a game?
The 2nd suspension was at the end of a game where Kane had already fought one guy for no reason and then decided to go after Engllend who was taking a few shots at him. Ultimately he pushed a ref, but the ref pushed him 10% of the way to blowing a gasket after Engllend got him 90% of the way there. Kane would never even be engaged with the ref in the first place had he not taken a massive hack at Engllend because he was mad he got cross checked.
It's not meaningless when he is one of 4 good top 6 scorers we have on the team and he's missing 2 games against a division rival who we will be battling against to win the division. Everyone here seems to be so up in arms when we don't get home ice because we cant seem to win these "meaningless games". The team loses to Vegas for a variety of reasons, but I think we can all agree the team has better odds of winning a game when they have more top 6 scorers on the ice not less. Kane taking himself out of these 2 games means we have less goal scorers. Kane playing like he's a 3rd/4th line grinder against Vegas in general means we are playing with someone who is more focused on fighting than he is on scoring...only one of those things helps the team win games.
Until one can legitimately quantify that impact, it's hard to put an appropriate amount of blame for the results of the games. Plenty of the times that Kane gets into these antics, the game is already decided and I still tend to blame the defense and puck play from those that carry it the most for the losses than Kane's shenanigans. Granted, I don't think Kane's stuff doesn't help any either but I don't put the bulk of the problems against Vegas on him. I put it more on coaching and poor commitment to smart puck placement and defense. They are often over-aggressive and give up the middle too easily and those mistakes are on pretty much everyone but I don't think it stems from Kane in the slightest. That issue was present before Kane was even acquired.
The first time with Bellemare was because Bellemare got in the way of Kane engaging the guy he wanted to engage with which was Nate Schmidt who was going back and forth with Pavelski with stick work. Kane's suspension there was just being careless with his stick more than it was being riled up.
And this time, quite simply it is a mischaracterization of events to call what Kane did going after Engelland. Kane was playing the game. Part of playing the game is checking players. Calling a retaliatory slash because Engelland kept tying him up and trying to engage is just silly in this context. Kane repeatedly kept trying to stay in the flow of play and the ref and Engelland both continued to make something more of it. He wasn't mad at the cross-check. He was mad at continuously being tied up for no reason when play is going on that he's trying to stay into.
It's the first three games of the season and they're games that are winnable with or without him. And if they happen to lose them all, they can make up for it with another 79 games to be played. And if they don't get home ice, they can win a series against anyone without it as has been proven time and time again to happen.
I think you overestimate to an extreme degree how much the first three games of the season actually mean on the whole. If you can cherry pick these three games as if it means anything on its own to the final standings at the end of the year, I can pick any three from any other of the 79 games that remain and show you the same thing. The difference is that I can show you significantly more. There are a ginormous amount of reasons a team places in the standings where they do. Pointing to the first three is just lame cherry picking and it's obviously being done to continue on the Kane hate train. And I get why one would hate Kane but from the perspective of the argument, it's weak.
Last year, we couldn't get home ice because you can pick between EK65's injury and initial integration to the team, you can look at the goaltending, you can look at the hyper aggressive system we play, we can look at the special teams leaving some to be desired on both sides, and you can look at the injury to Radim Simek as well. There's plenty to look at and it's not important what happened in any given three game stretch.