Serious issue and it's hard for people to hear because we all love hitting. It's particularly close to home for me because my son had a wicked concussion this year. Refs don't do enough to protect the players and when you (as a coach) complain about player safety and borderline hits they tell you to go coach squirts if you don't want to see hitting.
It all comes back to the NHL. These refs and high school coaches see NHL games, they see the Cup finals with hits from behind being let go and head shots getting minor penalties and they think the game should look the same at the amateur level. These are teenagers, not paid professional men. Even the World Juniors have stricter rules for dangerous hits. Any hit to a player in a vulnerable position is a penalty, even if the hittee puts himself in that position. Any hit to the head, incidental or not, is supposed to be a penalty... They do that because those kids, those amateurs are future millionaires and worth protecting. No such protection exists for regular high school players, and the books that run things won't change unless the NHL sets the example. That's not fair and it's really not the NHL's responsibility, but it's the way it is.
My experience is that it all depends on the refs you get. The rules are on the books, just depends on how they interpret/enforce them.
My son's U16 team played two games in the Albany area yesterday. Apparently the refs have been told to call all hits this year where the player has two hands on the stick and it’s off the ice when contact is made (even minor contact). That’s what the refs told our coach anyway.
In the first game, the refs called everything, ticky-tac stick infractions and even legal body contact was called “roughing”. I think we had 12-15 penalties and the home team had 10. The game was unwatchable. The second game (against a different team a couple hours later) the refs let almost everything go.
To me, this inconsistency is the major issue. Kids don’t know what the boundaries are game to game, even period to period. I see dirty hits go uncalled and clean hits result in major penalties because of the end result (player hurt). I am torn a bit. I understand the concern with headshots and concussions, but hockey IS a contact sport and checking is part of the game.
The officiating is never going to be perfect. I think the key is probably educating the players on how to be physical, check properly and to respect other players while still trying to win the game. Problem is I don’t see that happening right now. Instead of teaching the kids how to check, USA hockey just keeps pushing checking back further and further (age-wise), so you end up with a bunch of big, fast 14-15 year olds that have no experience checking in games.