Outside "our" control? Let's be clear here, we fans have no control over this stuff. In generally it's good to have perspective about things we don't have control over.
The players do and coaches do have control, and they can grow and get smarter when they make mistakes and when they do dumb things. What else are they going to do with it? Poor effort may be do to injury or a particular temporary psychological state at any given time, things we are fans are not privy to. The idea that there's only certain kinds of things that players and coaches can learn and grow from is pretty crazy to be honest. Is the idea here that these are not human beings just like us? What do you do when you have a bad moment and screw up? Ideally, you own up, grow and learn. When it comes to sports we are watching other people's lives and actions and all we can do is watch how they own up, grow and learn. Maybe this delusion that it's "us" is what drives fans to crazy overreaction....