If you think that Peters tanked a career because of this your pretty naive. There would be a heck of a lot more to this.
Of course, we here in Canada have a clear distinction of this. It is never okay to use any racial slur. I have yelled at my SO in a derogatory manner however she was fully pushing all the buttons to get me to do it (and what she did to me was way worse than an angry derogatory comment back). That is what I am talking about and yes, if you're in a relationship you've said hurtful things.
I am a part of a group that is trying to assist the black community in Raleigh, NC and a few more southern states. I have a clear understanding of the culture and economics there and the racism that festers as well. DO NOT mistake that for acceptance. I just understand the culture. I think there are 3 of us that are white and two of us are Canadian in this group and the rest are Black living in the poor regions of the cities and towns. Even trying to touch this and share this with you seems meaningless as the likelihood of the culture here having any actually understanding of the southern culture is a long shot. I abhorrer racism as you do, but it is ingrained down there and it is from
all races and it's never okay. Listening to people talk down south, the aggression and words used, left my mouth wide open for years. How one of my good friends in the community there walked around with guns going off blocks away and he's all casual on a video talk. Gangster rap or rap that talks consistently at harming people or that ilk is called n/music down there and not by the KKK but by the black community that fight the gangster culture. They use it as a slur to tell them their life of crime makes them worthless. I don't like the approach but I wouldn't last a second down there so who am I to intervene without the national guard! Still, it's wrong that these words are used so liberally down there IMO and yours. This is such a hard topic to discuss because we aren't there however there is a fantastic book/audiobook written by
Thomas Sowell who is an economist and brilliant mind that talks about it called
Black Rednecks and White Liberals.
It's pretty easy to be all self-righteous up here in Canada... The stuff that I'm tackling gives you a bit of insight as to why I'm ridiculous on here... #### gets real.
@Fig had the best post in this thread IMO. I'll post the link to it
Anyway, it's been a really hard month and I'm frustrated, angry and exhausted... TTYL.