Honest question:
In terms of pain, which of the following do you think is the worst?
1) Getting bullied in school
2) Getting beat up in a fist fight?
3) Having some kind of biological pain (i.e. kidney stones, gallstones, etc.).
4) Being dumped.
I'm going to be honest. I've been a victim of all 4, but was able to overcome the first 3 quite easily. Being a minority in a small town, some guys tried to mess with me in school and so I stood up for myself and got into a fight. I earned respect and was never bullied again.
I've had my butt kicked in a fist fight as well. Hurt like a mother ****er but I was ok a couple days later. I had gallstones in 2014. The pain was incredible, but prescription meds (Oxy and morphine) helped me.
Break up pain however? I'll be honest - I was always a casual one night kind of guy during my teens, 20's, and early 30's. I think this was for a few reasons:
1) I wanted to be with as many women as possible.......for both the experience and perceived social respect that comes from hooking up.
2) I always knew I was emotionally weak and wouldn't be able to handle a break up very well. My best friend move away when I was 12 years old in 1993 (we had been friends since we were 3) and it broke me. Hence - I never actually had an LTR growing up. A part of me always suspected that I was weaker than most in this area.........and it looks like I was right.
Beat the living monkey piss out of me in a fight, and I'm not afraid (unless it's a professional fighter of some kind). Say verbally nasty things about me and my pain threshold is quite high for that as well.
Break up with me after a two year relationship.......and then start dating a guy one month later.
I have no pain threshold for that unfortunately. I have no answer. I'm hurting. Badly. Bovinderstan McHinduji has finally met his kryptonite. If anyone has any constructive advice for me on how I can overcome this unfamiliar pain, I will appreciate that very much. Thanks in advance broskis.
